Stop waiting for that reply

How many times have you checked your phone today waiting for a response from someone, a text, a tweet, a like on a photo? Someone you love, someone you might love one day, someone who hurt you, someone you expect a lot of. I need to tell you something, you need to stop waiting for that reply.

Even if you’re not waiting for a reply, stop staring at your phone, stop giving it so much power over you. Notifications are not love, remember that.

stop waiting for the reply girl with phone

I’m not really talking just to you as I write this, I’m writing it to myself. I’m telling myself I need to stop waiting for that reply. I need to learn to stop equating my own worth to how quickly someone texts you back, or indeed whether they reply you back at all.

With read receipts on texts and WhatsApp, knowing when people are online, I find it harder and harder to not check my phone time after time even though my phone is on loud and I would hear a notification, but the near unease I get from not checking my phone is unhealthy and entirely non constructive.

I can’t, and you can’t put your life on hold while you wait for them to give you the attention you crave.

Please stop wondering what they are doing rather than replying to you, because I know and you know that whatever they are doing, it has no impact on them not replying to you. More than likely are not even thinking about not replying to you, certainly not to the degree you are think about them not replying.

stop waiting for the reply girl with phone

Don’t jump to conclusions, don’t allow yourself to think that the reason they haven’t replied is because you aren’t worthy or enough. You are enough, you are worthy. I am enough, I am worthy. I don’t know all of you reading this but I’m almost entirely sure that when the person saw your message, they didn’t roll their eyes, sigh and think to themselves ‘urgh’.

Now take all of this on board and then let me share a few home truths;

If they always take days to reply to you, yet when they are with you they respond to the texts of others quick sharp, then get rid, they are wankers and you don’t need that in your life. In fact delete their number, do it now, we’ll wait.

If they only text when it’s past midnight and they’ve had a couple or more drinks, if they only message when they want something out of it, get rid. In fact delete their number, do it now, we’ll wait.

stop waiting for the reply you are enough

You are enough even if your phone screen stays blank.

You are enough even if you want to kick yourself a little bit for keeping texting them when they’ve gone quiet.

You are enough even if you never hear from them again.

You are enough. Stop waiting for that reply.


  1. 9th November 2017 / 8:10 pm

    This post completely resonated with me. (I usually always assume the worst if I don’t get a reply) is something that I’ve been working on over the past few years!

    • 9th November 2017 / 8:38 pm

      I’m glad it resonates, and I really hope it helps you to breathe a little when you feel that dread start up

  2. 18th November 2017 / 7:25 pm

    Love this piece, good reminder. Again you write beautifully x

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